You say you love your children, yet you can do things to them that make them feel bad and unloved. And they cry. And you say: stop that crying. STOP CRYING! DON’T YOU UNDERSTAND THAT I LOVE YOU SO MUCH! WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN CRYING - I LOVE YOU!
We’re a bit screwed-up in our heads. The child cries because it feels so unloved, it feels you hate it, and would rather not have it. If it felt loved, why would it cry.
And just because we the adult and parent think we love our child, doesn’t necessarily mean we do. It’s all about what’s going on in our hidden depths that the baby and child is responding to, not what’s going on only in the surface layers.